The Dude Who Broke my Heart

I don't really know how to start this post, just a little of a warning it is going to be very ranty.  First I would like to apologize of being very distant lately.  My heart is pretty much figuratively broke in 8 billion pieces and it is the week before my spring break and I have had way to much stress with school work. Hopefully next week I'll be able to catch up.

Not that I haven't dated and been happy with guys that I have previously dated but I've never had my heart broken.  Yes I had that guy I liked all through high school that nothing ever happened but I wouldn't call that a heart break I would really just call that the person who you think in your mind in perfect but in reality if you ever dated he would just be the stereotypical rude jock in a lame abc family.  Little side bar abc family you use to have good movies but now they are just terrible.  But who am I to say I probably couldn't write anything better.  

Here I am in my dorm room talking to the guy  I've been seeing eight for months.  We got through the normal long distance problems like me leaving for college, missing each other, and being busy.  Then two words just destroyed me "It's over".  Ten minutes later I had the most awkward tutoring session and my poor tutor.  I didn't cry thank god, I wouldn't even know what to do at that moment.  

I joke a lot about being heartless but that's far from the truth.  I like my independence I actually don't mind being a loner.  Through high school I had two relationships that were not intense, I was happy but I didn't love them.  I was 5 hours away from family and my dog dealing with a pain I've never felt.  It was like my body was exploding of feelings of confusion, anger, and sadness.  I was with someone that when I was next to them I was the happiest I have ever been.  I've never felt as safe, loved and comfortable with someone and then they're gone.  

Everything I have ever done I've never regretted.  Even if it ended badly there are always those good times where when you think about them a little smile starts to form.  Also there's always things you can learn from a failed relationship so I will share some things about my relationship that are kinda personal but I hope it will give anyone who reads This advice about a relationship.  

Summer Flings Should Not Extend to Fall

I just graduated high school and I wanted to stay as far away from the people who I went to high school.  I live in a summer town where summer flings are super common.  But this wasn't a casual relationship where you go to the beach and  make out on the lifeguard chair and call it a night.  It was complicated and the way I felt with him was a connection that I had never felt before.  When I looked at him I got nervous and my heart stared beating faster.  Here's my advice when the summer ends so does your relationship.  Long distance is complicated when you have only been dating for a couple of months it's better to just cut ties.  

Sneaking Around Gets Old

I was 18 and he was 22.  I'm not proud to say this but I became pretty good about being somewhere I wasn't.  If the relationship ended when I left for school then it would of been fine it was a summer fling because I was working three jobs and didn't have time to date and he worked in a restaurant to so we always got out at the same time.  But it didn't end then came the awkward were are you going out at 11 when my "friend" (I may of have made up a friendship which explained why I left my house so late) who was in college which was my normal excuse.  Things got real when I left for college.  The feelings that we were both holding back because we both new that this relationship was something that couldn't last come to the surface and there was no one we would of rather been with than each other.  

When I left for school it was one of the hardest things I had to do.  It was the "double hug" if anyone here is familiar with Holly and Vince hug on What I Like About You.  It's when someone hugs you then they let go then pull you back in closer then you would think was possible and just hold you.  Then I cried all the way home and for a little after.  Then I thought it was over but then he texted me later that night when I was in Vermont.  

My New Rule: No More Douchebags 

Ok this one is a little extreme I wouldn't exactly call him a douchebag but in the end I wasn't treated how I wanted to be or how anyone should be treated.  It was hard being away but I always felt guilty for being away and that he was mad I wasn't home with him.  Also he did not end it well and now we don't even talk.  So here I am a making the pledge to not like or date another jerk.  I defiantly do not want to become more of a part of the hookup culture.  It's not worth it, it recked my friendship with one of my guy friends and this last one turned into being together and destroyed me emotionally.  

-Cara douchbag free Sense 2.23.15

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Thanks, Cara

Valentine's Day Playlist

Enjoying the Single Life

I have to disagree with Taylor, staying in on Valentine's day with your friends is nothing but pathetic.  Even though every romantic comedy makes it seem like is impossible to be happy single. You don't need anyone but yourself to be happy.  You are a Strong Independent Women who don't need no man.

The best part of staying in is you don't have to wait 45 minutes to get into a so-so restaurant in your town then to get seated next to some couple who is feeding each other chocolate cake.  When you stay in your friends and put frozen food in the oven and bake some chocolate goodies.

Best part of a girls night in is you don't have to worry about feeling alone.  You are surrounded by the people that will have your back till the end and you don't have to wait till the fifth date to worry about what to say to your date.  

Tuesday Trends

Winter weather can sometimes be a large let down when you thought of a cute outfit to wear and you wake up in the morning and your front deck has a foot of snow on it.  I know people in the northeast know what I'm talking about.  I know last weekend when I went home my house in Cape Cod had more snow then my dorm room in Burlington Vermont.  

Flannel And Jeans

Everyone wants to look good but also people do not want to freeze on the walk to class.  Flannels are a great layer and they are also a very warm. Wear them over a sweater and you can always wear a pair of leggings under jeans to add extra warmth.  

 Boyfriend Jeans

I recently almost bought a pair of jeans then looked at how much money I had in my account, sadly I don't own a pair of these jeans.  These look great with an over sized sweater and sandals or a pair of ankle boots if you live in a colder climate.  

 Colored Skirts

This is a great outfit this time of year if you live in Florida but I'm going to help you achieve this same outfit in places as cold as Canada.  Chances are if you are wearing this outfit you are not going to spending more then the walk to the car to the restaurant outside.  If you live in a colder climate wear some skin color tights and wear a wool trench coat.  If you are worried about still being cold wearing a tank top wear a white 3/4 quarter sleeve shirt.  

How to Avoid Commercialism On Valentine's Day

Love means a lot more then sending two dozen roses and having an expensive candle light dinner.  It seems like everyone believes that Valentines day is this special day where you are suppose to go over the top to prove your love.  It seems like today that people couldn't plan a Valentine's day without using any commercialism.  Here are some ideas to do valentine's day yourself and not look like a corny Jared's add.

1. Cook A Romantic Dinner

There's nothing more romantic about someone taking the time to plan what to make you then make you a delicious dinner.

2. Leave Little Love Notes Everywhere

 Letting someone know that they are important to you is way more romantic than a diamond ring in my opinion.  If you leave before your loved one wakes up leave little notes around the house and in the car saying how much you care.

3.  Have a Netflix Night and Let her Pick the Movie

Not that we don't like watching movies you like sometimes it good to suck it up and watch a chick flick.  The most important one about this is don't complain throughout the entire movie about how a boy meets a girl, they fall in love, get in a fight then in the end get back together.  We know that's how they all go but we will always watch them.

4.  Take a Bubble Bath

I don't think anyone needs an explanation to why this is a good idea.

Valentines Day Gifts For the Newly Single

Nothing is worse then getting your heart broken right before Valentines Day.  You're sitting at home going through your social network feeds seeing all your friends gift and romantic dinner dates there on.  Here are some gifts to give one of your friends you have just gone though a resent heartbreak.

Wine is My Valentine T-Shirt

Tank Top

Stop by the store and grab a bottle of wine, chocolate, cheese, and some good chick flick.  Sometimes after a breakup going out is only a temporary way to get your mind off how you are feeling.  You just need that night to cry eat high calorie foods because it does make you feel better to just cry it out.  

Break Up Mug

Mug

If the breakup was over something bad the other person did a humorous mug might be a good way to help a friend get over a douchebag.  If you want to make it yourself just buy a white mug and a sharpie and bake it for ten minutes at 275.

Ryan Gosling Earrings

Give these to a friend to remind her that the god guys are still out there.  You don't have to buy pretty much anything with Ryan's face on it will make anyone smile.  

Black Heart Lolly Pops 

Who says heartbreak can't be sweet?

The Real Meaning Of Valentines Day

Today when people think of valentines day they think about chocolate and giant teddy bears that say be mine.  But maybe not.

The origin or this Holiday is not romantic at all and it not about the expression of love.  The Story behind St. Valentine is about A Roman Priest.  This priest was about to prohibit young people to marry.  There was a theory that young men would fight better if they where married rather than if they where single because they might be more afraid what would happen to their wives or families when they died.

The society where St. Valentine lived in was a very allowing society polygamy was more popular then one women and one man living together.  But the church believed that marriage was more sacred between one women and one man.  Valentine was about promoting marriage between one women and men in the Christian church and branch away from polygamy.  Valentine had to secretly marry the couples because of the rules set forth by the authority.

Valentine was later imprisoned.  In the year 269 AD Valentines was sentenced to be part of an execution including stoning, beating, and decapitation.  It is known that his last words was a note to Asterius' daughter with the words "from your Valentine".

Why I Hate Valentines Day

I feel like everyone has the same opinion on holidays.  No one hates Christmas or Thanksgiving and I've never heard someone say "Oh I just can't stand St. Patricks Day" because who doesn't like corn beef and beer?  Valentines day has never been a holiday I particularly liked even in grade school.  Yes getting heart shaped lollypops and hershey kisses wasn't something I'll complain about but as I grew older Valentines day seemed to become about more about what you got and what football player you where spending it with rather than the love two people shared.

Last week was a little busy and a little getting my heart stomped on with doc martins so I was not really into posting.  It is Valentines week and you are either love it or hate it and I'm going to try to cater to everyones needs.  I'll try to make up for my laying in bed binge watching Nashville eating chocolate week last week by making multiple posts a day.

xoxo Cara