Slut Shaming

Slut-Shaming is an unfortunate phenomenon that is when a person mocks or degrades a women because she participates in what is not considered "acceptable" or "normal" sexual activity for a female.  Slut-Shaming is a term that is most used in regards to women and not men.

The Double Standard 
If a man walked into a room of his peers and talked about his last night with a women he would be praised and admired.  While if a women walked into a room and said the same story as the man the chances of her being admired and praised are very low.  In Toronto a police officer told two girls that they could avoid sexual assault from not dressing slutty.  Which prompted the Slutwalk in protest.  Has anyone ever told a guy to not dress slutty? Has a guy ever been giving a second look for wearing a toga on Halloween?

Slut Shaming Needs to Stop
When I was in High School I heard the term slut, whore, and thot multiple times during the day.  The only way for slut shaming can stop is for people to be educated on what those words really mean and what It feels like to be called one of them.  Slut shaming is immature and it's sad to what it has become today.  Bette Midler is a 68 year old women who called Ariana Grande who is 21 a whore.  Slut Shaming needs to stop because I really hope that when I'm 68 the word whore is not in my daily vocabulary.

Dessert Ideas For Thanksgiving

Marbled Pumpkin Cheesecake

INGREDIENTS:

1 1/2 cups crushed gingersnap cookies 1/2 cup finely chopped pecans 1/3 cup butter, melted   2 (8 ounce) packages cream cheese, softened

3/4 cup white sugar, divided 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 3 eggs 1 cup canned pumpkin 3/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1/4 teaspoon ground nutmeg

DIRECTIONS:

1.	Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). In a medium bowl, mix together the crushed gingersnap cookies, pecans, and butter. Press into the bottom, and about 1 inch up the sides of a 9 inch springform pan. Bake crust 10 minutes in the preheated oven. Set aside to cool.
2.	In a medium bowl, mix together the cream cheese, 1/2 cup sugar, and vanilla just until smooth. Mix in eggs one at a time, blending well after each. Set aside 1 cup of the mixture. Blend 1/4 cup sugar, pumpkin, cinnamon, and nutmeg into the remaining mixture.
3.	Spread the pumpkin flavored batter into the crust, and drop the plain batter by spoonfuls onto the top. Swirl with a knife to create a marbled effect.
4.	Bake 55 minutes in the preheated oven, or until filling is set. Run a knife around the edge of the pan. Allow to cool before removing pan rim. Chill for at least 4 hours before serving. Pumpkin Roll

INGREDIENTS:

3 eggs 1 cup white sugar 2/3 cup solid pack pumpkin puree 1 teaspoon lemon juice 3/4 cup all-purpose flour 1 teaspoon baking powder 1/2 teaspoon salt 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon 1 teaspoon ground ginger

1 cup chopped pecans confectioners' sugar for dusting   1 (8 ounce) package cream cheese 4 tablespoons butter 1 cup confectioners' sugar 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract confectioners' sugar for dusting

DIRECTIONS:

1.	Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease and flour a 10x15 inch jellyroll pan.
2.	In a large bowl, beat eggs and sugar with an electric mixer on high speed for five minutes. Gradually mix in pumpkin and lemon juice. Combine the flour, baking powder, salt, cinnamon, and ginger; stir into the pumpkin mixture. Spread batter evenly into the prepared pan. Sprinkle pecans over the top of the batter.
3.	Bake for 12 to 15 minutes, or until the center springs back when touched. Loosen edges with a knife. Turn out on two dishtowels that have been dusted with confectioners' sugar. Roll up cake using towels, and let cool for about 20 minutes.
4.	In a medium bowl, combine cream cheese, butter, 1 cup confectioners' sugar, and vanilla. Beat until smooth. Unroll pumpkin cake when cool, spread with filling, and roll up. Place pumpkin roll on a long sheet of waxed paper, and dust with confectioners' sugar. Wrap cake in waxed paper, and twist ends of waxed paper like a candy wrapper. Refrigerate overnight. Serve chilled; before slicing, dust with additional confectioners' sugar. Candied Yam Cupcakes INGREDIENTS: 1 pound yams, peeled and cubed 4 eggs 1 cup canola oil 1 cup white sugar 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 2 cups all-purpose flour 2 teaspoons baking powder 1 teaspoon baking soda 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon 1 teaspoon salt   3 ounces cream cheese 1/2 cup butter, softened 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 2 cups confectioners' sugar DIRECTIONS: 1. Place a steamer insert into a large saucepan, and fill with water to just below the bottom of the steamer. Cover, and bring the water to a boil over high heat. Add the yams, recover, and steam until very tender, about 15 minutes. Remove yams from steamer and allow to cool slightly. 2. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Line 2-12 cup cupcake tins with paper liners. 3. Place eggs, oil, sugar, vanilla extract, and cooked yams in a large bowl; beat with an electric mixer until light and fluffy. Sift together flour, baking powder, baking soda, cinnamon, and salt. Stir dry ingredients into yam mixture, mixing just until combined. Pour batter into paper liners, filling 2/3 full. 4. Bake in preheated oven until a toothpick inserted in the center of a cupcake comes out clean, 17 to 20 minutes. Cool in pans for 5 minutes, transfer to wire rack to cool completely. 5. Beat together cream cheese and butter until fluffy. Beat in the vanilla extract and confectioners sugar; mix until smooth. Frost cool cupcakes with cream cheese frosting.

DBC Does Tinder

I'm pretty sure every college student has had a tinder and has at least swiped left or right at at one point. So I made a Tinder for myself and just got way too creeped out.  So I made a fake one.  Used some socialights photo who was about my age.  Tinder is really a game when you think about it even when you get a match it says message them or keep playing.  So I played the game.  There where two rules in this game.
1. Only swipe right
2. BE the most boring individual possible

With in and hour I had 256 matches in only a two mile radius with a profile with nothing but my name and a photo and my phone was going off every second with new messages and matches.  Then the "game" started.  Within talking to someone in five minutes "I" had a date.  My only response to this person was "yeah" throughout the five minute conversation.  Who wants to date yeah?

Then things got a little more interesting.  With me making a one word response I got another "tinder date",  I got offered to smoke weed and or drink cheap vodka.  Oh how so romantic.  I wonder why Nicolas Sparks never thought of these great dates.  If it takes a one word response to get invited on a date don't go and don't even think about going.

Then came the rugby player who figured me out.  This is probably the only positive I got someone who didn't just want a pretty face to talk to.  I would say that 90% of my conversations started off with "you're pretty" but to make it worse many of them used your.  Then there was the guy that said "You seem rad" sorry but you can not tell if someone is rad or not from the way they look in picture because it's all fake.  Everything you read online can be fake and lies.  I'll admit if I'm home watching Netflix and someone I like texts me I'll defiantly say I'm out doing something.  My favorite though would have to be the guy that said "I lost my teddy bear and was wondering if I could sleep with you" Honey no, just no.

With in an hour I had twenty seven dates and hundreds of conversations going with me only responding with yeah, good, and cool.  A guy that had a horrible opening line asked to start over talking me after I was a complete bitch and when I stopped answering these posts the messages didn't stop.

This little experiment was a lot more interesting that I thought it was going to be.   When my phone was going off with messages and matches I was wondering what I could do with this.  If I sounded interesting or went along with there conversations it would all lead to the same endpoint.  I thought it was crazy that in an hour I had over twenty dates when I was only saying one word showing no personality or even talking about my self.  Just think about this next time you're on tinder.  Is it your words or your photos?


P.S.
The Worse first Messages I got
2 Miles away? I didn't know heaven was so close?

 you could choose between having pokemon be real and world peace... What pokemon would be your starter?

Music make me a little crazy. How about you? Lol what's up.

How did the hipster burn his tongue? Because he drank his coffee before it was cool.

You can I holla for a dolla???

Do you have the boobies?


So did you swipe for the beard or the terrible pickup line?
If you were a transformer you'd be Optimusfine


Matches update
4:30- 256 matches
4:50 - 323 matches
6:28 - 426 matches

Turkey Day Football With some Tasty Parings

I hate to break it to my New Englanders out there but you will not get to see Tom Brady's nice looking face on thanksgiving. There are three games on thanksgiving starting at 12:30.  Perfect time to put out some appetizers, right?

12:30 CBS Bears VS. Lions Pared with Buffalo Chicken Dip and Your Favorite IPA

The Detroit Lions are at it again.  Can the repeat their win they had last year against the Packers?  This game should be interesting because it features the leagues most powerful offenses lead by Matthew Stafford and Jay Cutler. 

Buffalo Chicken Dip

Prep Time: 5 Minutes Cook Time: 40 Minutes Ready In: 45 Minutes Servings: 20

INGREDIENTS:

2 (10 ounce) cans chunk chicken, drained 2 (8 ounce) packages cream cheese, softened 1 cup Ranch dressing 3/4 cup pepper sauce (such as Frank's Red Hot®)

1 1/2 cups shredded Cheddar cheese   1 bunch celery, cleaned and cut into 4 inch pieces 1 (8 ounce) box chicken-flavored crackers

DIRECTIONS:

1.

Heat chicken and hot sauce in a skillet over medium heat, until heated through. Stir in cream cheese and ranch dressing. Cook, stirring until well blended and warm. Mix in half of the shredded cheese, and transfer the mixture to a slow cooker. Sprinkle the remaining cheese over the top, cover, and cook on Low setting until hot and bubbly. Serve with celery sticks and crackers. 4:30 FOX Eagles VS. Cowboys Tony Romo and Nick Foles are going to make this game one to remember.  Under Chip Kelly Nick is taking the eagles to a new level.  Does Tony still have it in him or are the new guys going to get things passed him? Stuffed Mushrooms Paired with Belgian Trappist Beer Its around 6 and your stomach is starting to growl after the 3'oc turkey, instead of those potato chips try these Stuffed Mushrooms.

Prep Time: 20 Minutes Cook Time: 40 Minutes

Ready In: 1 Hour  Servings: 12

INGREDIENTS: 12 fresh mushrooms 1/2 pound ground beef 1 tablespoon minced onion 1 clove garlic, minced 1 tablespoon butter 1/4 cup bread crumbs salt and pepper to taste 1/4 cup heavy cream 1/4 cup butter, melted 1 teaspoon chili powder DIRECTIONS: 1. Preheat oven to 425 degrees F (220 degrees C). Remove and chop mushroom stems. 2. In a saucepan over medium heat, combine ground beef, onion, and garlic. Cook until beef is no longer pink; drain. Mix in chopped mushroom stems, 1 tablespoon butter, bread crumbs, salt, and pepper. Cook, stirring frequently, for 5 minutes. Remove from heat, and stir in cream. 3. Dip mushroom caps in 1/4 cup melted butter, and stuff generously with meat mixture. Arrange stuffed mushrooms in a baking dish. Sprinkle with chili powder. 4. Bake for 20 to 25 minutes in the preheated oven. 8:30 NBC Seahawks Vs. 49ers There two teams are going to battle it out again after the January 2014 championship game. The Classic Pecan Pie and J.W. Lees Harvest Prep Time: 15 Minutes Cook Time: 40 Minutes Ready In: 1 Hour 5 Minutes Servings: 8 "A pecan pie without the corn syrup. Pecans, white sugar, and brown sugar are combined to create a satisfying dessert." INGREDIENTS: 1 cup light brown sugar 1/4 cup white sugar 1/2 cup butter 2 eggs 1 tablespoon all-purpose flour 1 tablespoon milk 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 1 cup chopped pecans DIRECTIONS: 1. Preheat oven to 400 degrees F (205 degrees C). 2. In a large bowl, beat eggs until foamy, and stir in melted butter. Stir in the brown sugar, white sugar and the flour; mix well. Last add the milk, vanilla and nuts. 3. Pour into an unbaked 9-in pie shell. Bake in preheated oven for 10 minutes at 400 degrees, then reduce temperature to 350 degrees and bake for 30 to 40 minutes, or until done. Thank you NFL.com and all recipes.com

The Holiday Season

Not that I don't love laying on the beach in the middle of the summer on a day off with a good playlist nothing beats the feeling of curling up in a blanket with a hot cup of coco while your Dad yells at a screen while someone doesn't catch the ball the great Tom through.  Yes there is no bashing Brady in my house.  I love this season with a passion.  I love seeing my family and can not wait to see my brothers and my brothers new puppy.

Thanksgiving is my absolute favorite holiday, I would have it over chrisms any day.  Yes it's stressful and someone always yells but you always get over it because you are family.  This week leading up to thanksgiving I'm going to have a post hopefully every day to get you ready for the day.  Get ready for some pumpkin pie recipes!

Winter Bucket List

1. Go look at Holiday Lights In a different town

2. Give a Secret Gift to Someone

3.  Go Ice Skating

4. Make a Gingerbread House

5. Have A fire and watch Holiday Movies

6.  Go Sledding

7. Donate Toys

8. Make Peppermint Bark

Love and the Internet

Every day I read many articles about fashion/makeup/ and love.  Fashion and makeup I have pretty well covered and can help someone in those situations but love is something I have very little experience with because when someone tells me their relationship problems my advice is pretty much always to let them go.  The reason being if you're not happy whats the point of staying in the relationship and if they really love you they need that time away to figure out what they want.  But every article or just about every article I find online I find hilarious because it will not help you in real life. Here some on the craziest ones I've seen.  

20 Tips To Make Him Fall in Love with You

Fist I'm going to ask you would you want to make a guy fall in love with you?  In my opinion love and relationships are never something that should be forced because you wouldn't want to be with someone who just thinks he wants to be with you.  You want someone who knows he wants to be with you and wants a future.  

15 Flirting Rules to make a Guy like You 

If a guy likes you he will like you if your horrible at it or amazing.  Think about it if you like someone for their personality and humor would you care if they sucked at flirting?  Flirting doesn't last that long once you have him theres no need to continue flirting because you're getting into the serious parts of the relationship where you actually learn who the person is inside and out.  

15 Tips to get a guy to Text You Back

If a guy doesn't text you back it's really no big deal.  Don't sit in your bed watching sad romantic movies all day clutching your phone waiting for him to say "hi".  Get out of bed and do something you never know you could run into him and he can see that him not texting you back meant nothing to you.  

Love can be something amazing that lasts for a while but It can also be something that breaks you down and makes you wish you never kissed them in the first place.  When every relationship ends you ask yourself if it was worth it.  Sometimes all the work and pain won't be equal to the happiness and the love.  At my age putting myself out there for another person was the riskiest and scariest thing for me.  My advice is act yourself in the beginning if it will be worth it, if the pain is worth the potential happiness.  

Love's a game, wanna play?: How to get Through A Breakup Through Taylor Swift 1989 Lyrics

So I got dumped, hard core and I had no idea how to deal with it.  To be honest this is the first real breakup I went though, yes I've been dumped before and been the dumper but none of those previous relationships led me to crying and ending up going to bed at 8:30 on a Friday night.  I was thinking about doing the typical right after watch movies and eat chocolate post but that just isn't me (not that I didn't binge watch netflix).  I think the best way to get through a break up is to have a little humor with it because you may feel like your life is over but it's really not in some cases it could just be the beginning.  

Blank Space

So it's gonna be forever
Or it's gonna go down in flames
You can tell me when it's over
If the high was worth the pain
...
'Cause we're young and we're reckless
We'll take this way too far
It'll leave you breathless
Or with a nasty scar

This song pretty much describes any passionate relationship.  You are either going to be together forever and be that old couple who still have sex multiple times a week or your relationship is going to crash and burn.  But sometimes the burn is worth the time and effort you put into the relationship because it can help you in future relationships.  With these relationships you will either find yourself telling your girlfriends about the wild love you had for years or it being too painful to ever mention.  If this was the breakup you experienced focus on the positive and don't let the fire give you too much thought.

Style

Could end in burning flames or paradise
Fade into view, oh, it's been a while since I have even heard from you (heard from you)
...
I say, "I heard, oh, that you been out and about with some other girl, some other girl."
He says, "What you've heard is true but I Can't stop thinking about you," and
 I...I said, "I've been there too a few times."

These lyrics are there for anyone who has ever been cheated on.  In this song Taylor describes him as a James Dean character, a boy that ever goes out of style aka all the girls want him.  No one deserves to be cheated on and no one should let it happen.  Stand up for yourself and get out of the relationship because if they're going to cheat on you now it's not worth the risk of them cheating on you when you have 2.5 kids and a mortgage. For this break up forget about it.   The good times you shared as a couple might lead you to go back, focus on yourself and find yourself someone you loves you too much to be afraid to hurt you.

Welcome to New York

Everybody here wanted something more
Searching for a sound we hadn't heard before
...
Like any great love, it keeps you guessing
Like any real love, it's ever-changing
Like any true love, it drives you crazy

But you know you wouldn't change anything, anything, anything
Can an artist please make a song about Boston? Anyways this song is all about love being something that sound be wonderful and make you feel empowered.  Maybe its my little obsession with gossip girl but there is some power that comes along with walking down the streets of New York (it could be just because I was 12 and the Jay-z song about NYC was just released.  Love should be something that keeps you wondering and wanting to know more about the person.  And it should also drive you crazy (not mad, crazy). Be crazy in love and have wild adventures.  These lyrics are to inspire you to have a love that keeps you excited.  It also helps to get over a bad relationship because something better will be out there, just find the right person to open yourself up to.

My 101th Post

First I would like to say I hope everyone had a safe and fun Halloween this year.  

I am very sad that I missed my 100th post it said 99 then quickly changed to 100 so here it is the 101th post of Don't Be Common Fashion.  To think I started this whole thing when I was a lonely sophomore laying in bed when I was "sick" from school that it has come to something that I've continued to do for the past two years.  I've always love fashion, like what other five year old wears a eyelet dress to their 5th birthday when I believe that day there was an intense game of hid and seek in the woods behind my house.  

I started this blog to help girls feel confident in what they where and helping people pick outfits. From what to wear to prom to what to wear on a Tuesday to school I am here for you girls.  Fashion can be complicated because some people are mixed with what they think is fashionable and what the opinion is between their friends.  Which is where the term "Basic Bitch" comes from.  Which I have sooooo been wanting to write a post about it.  I went to a high school where "Basic Bitch" would classify about 75% of my school.  Not that dressing that way in any way is bad, I myself own a north face rain jacket and Hunter Boots but never will  I ever wear vineyard vines.  And If anyone sees me wearing vineyard Vines you have the permission to steal it and burn it.  

I want to concluded this post with the original Don't Be Common quote. "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."  Fashion is all about self expression.  Make it what ever you want it to be, because if someone is going to judge you on wearing two different color socks its probably not the only thing they judge about people.  Fashion is yours and don't let anyone take it away the feeling on looking amazing in an outfit.

Always,

Cara